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Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money

The Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years

Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller

Golden Guides from St. Martin's Press

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ISBN10: 0312573642
ISBN13: 9780312573645

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384 Pages



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This completely revised and updated edition of Don't Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money prepares parents for the issues that they will encounter during their children's college years. Since our original publication over ten years ago, there has been a dramatic increase in the use of cell phone and internet technology. The birth of the term ‘helicopter parent' is, in part, due to the instant and frequent connectivity that parents have with their children today. Parents are struggling with the appropriate use of communicative technology and aren't aware of its impact on their child's development, both personally and academically.

With straightforward practicality and using humorous and helpful case examples and dialogues, Don't Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money helps parents lay the groundwork for a new kind of relationship so that they can help their child more effectively handle everything they'll encounter during their college years.


Praise for Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money

"College consultant Johnson and educator Schelhas-Miller (Human Development/Cornell Univ.) . . . provide easily applicable tips on how to achieve the fine balance between their child's continued dependence and burgeoning adulthood. Concise in their points, the authors tackle everything from declaring a major to frat parties to campus security. With insight on how to allow a child to develop their own identity and make their own decisions and whether or not to Facebook-friend college-aged children, the authors urge against the tendency toward 'helicopter parenting,' or hovering. This is particularly difficult in the age of the 'Electronic Umbilical Cord,' to which the authors pay particular heed in their discussion of making the most of technology without overstepping boundaries. Most beneficial for parents, whether their child is college-aged or not, is the chapter entitled 'When to Worry, When to Act,' in which parents are instructed on how to deal with problems and crises, and how to tell the difference. A valuable guide for every parent."—Kirkus Reviews

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Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money

Chapter 1
From Supervisor to Consultant
Laying the Groundwork for a New Kind of Relationship with Your Child

When our son called...

About the author

Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller

HELEN JOHNSON founded and directed Cornell University's first Parents' Program and is now engaged in her own consulting business with college parents and universities.

CHRISTINE SCHELAS-MILLER teaches a course on adolescence and emerging adulthood in the department of human development at Cornell University and coordinates student advising as the assistant director of undergraduate studies. She was previously an associate dean of students at Cornell.