In 2019, traditional masculinity is both rewarded and sanctioned. Men grow up being told that boys don’t cry and dolls are for girls (a newer phenomenon than you might realize—gendered toys came back in vogue as recently as the 80s). They learn they must hide their feelings and anxieties, that their masculinity must constantly be proven. They must be the breadwinners, they must be the romantic pursuers. This hasn’t been good for the culture at large: 99% of school shooters are male; men in fraternities are 300% (!) more likely to commit rape; a woman serving in uniform has a higher likelihood of being assaulted by a fellow soldier than to be killed by enemy fire.
In For the Love of Men, Liz offers a smart, insightful, and deeply-researched guide for what we're all going to do about toxic masculinity. For both women looking to guide the men in their lives and men who want to do better and just don’t know how, For the Love of Men will lead the conversation on men's issues in a society where so much is changing, but gender roles have remained strangely stagnant.
What are we going to do about men? Liz Plank has the answer. And it has the possibility to change the world for men and women alike.
"For the Love of Men offers a blueprint for men to examine themselves and how they think about gender."—NPR
"[A] timely, gimlet-eyed book about toxic masculinity. With sparkling wit and razor-sharp cultural criticism, Plank investigates toxic masculinity and the threat it poses not just to women, children, and society, but to the emotional wellbeing of men themselves."—Esquire
“A hopeful prescription.”—GQ
“A near-forensically reported examination of modern masculinity and an urgent call to action.”—Vogue
“A tender, intelligent meditation on why now, more than ever, men deserve more.”—Teen Vogue
“Plank's empathy and hope are palpable."—Pop Sugar
"Liz Plank is leading a vital debate about gender, power and feminism in a style that opens wider dialogue and reaches beyond the politically converted. She also shows it's entirely possible to have fun while tackling challenges like gender norms and cultural repression. Liz has established herself as a leader and an expert in the field of gender politics—all without conforming to some of the old rules about what it means to be an expert. Whether you find yourself nodding in agreement or laughing in exasperation, you will always learn something when engaging with Liz's ideas, which is why we call on her so often on air."—Ari Melber, host of The Beat with AriMelber on MSNBC
"Over the last decade or so, I've liked to tell anyone who will listen that biggest problem facing America is the scourge of testosterone poisoning. The thing is, I'm not really joking. And as Liz Plank demonstrates in her extremely timely new book For the Love of Men, toxic masculinity threatens the well-being not just of the women and children around them, but men themselves. Has it gotten worse? I don't know. Maybe I'm just noticing it a lot more. But what I DO know is that as Plank puts it, the 'crisis in masculinity is not just about boys, it's about all of us.' We need a new model of maleness. This book is a great place to start."—Anna Holmes, founder of Jezebel
“For anyone who cares about the future of men and boys—and that means anyone, male or female, who cares about the future of the culture and the country—For the Love of Men is an essential read. With her signature blend of optimism, humor, curiosity, and compassion, Liz Plank takes on the topic of toxic masculinity and points the way towards the detox we so urgently need. When Liz talks, I listen, and so should you.”—John Heilemann, co-host of Showtimes’ The Circus, national affair analyst for MSNBC, and co-author of Game Change and Double Down
“If there was ever a woman who could write thoughtfully about how to be a man, it’s Liz Plank. With sensitivity, insight and a healthy dose of rage, Liz takes on the subject of systemic toxic masculinity. She is well known as a champion to the disenfranchised, to bring the issues of the marginalized to the forefront of discussion. This book is no different. By tackling the source of gender inequality, Liz forces us to open our eyes to invisible biases and how we can start to think about them differently. I believe she gives men (and women really) a path forward to be both different yet equal; a way to raise a new, more evolved breed of man and gives permission to women to accept nothing less.”—Stacy London, New York Times bestselling author of The Truth About Style
"[A] compassionate and skillful social analysis. Plank’s thoughtful approach and ability to elicit emotional responses from men by engaging them about masculinity as a curious, compassionate outsider yield a well-rounded picture of what contemporary men are facing."—Publishers Weekly
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